'You must be the change you want to see in the world', Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)
I don't know how many times I have used the quote above, but it's one of my absolute favorites, so the reader must excuse me for using it again. Gandhi was actually telling us the entire path to freedom in just one sentence, and I am going to start this book by discussing exactly what he meant by this quote.
Life is not always easy to live. We get up in the morning and think we are doing just fine. We take a shower, perhaps, eat our breakfast, and get ready for work, and we're still in quite a good mood. Then, when we come home in the evening and sit down at the table, we think, "What a terrible day!"
Everything just seemed to go wrong - the boss yelled at us, we tried to talk nicely to our coworkers, but they misunderstood our communication and took offense, and with all that, we made one or two embarrassing mistakes. Therefore, we ask ourselves, how come? After all, we were in a good mood in the morning and didn't expect all this to happen. Don't we create our own reality?
Yes, we do! The trick is that we need to put the right energies behind our thoughts. We woke up in the morning and were in a good mood, and that's a very good start. However, maybe we didn't think more about it than that we were feeling good and that's it. Sometimes that's not enough - we need to be specific with what we want. Few people are aware of how many thoughts are going through their heads every day, and in fact, for most people, the majority of these thoughts are what I call sloppy thoughts or junk thoughts.
How many times I during a day have we thought something like, "I can't do this", "this is a pain in the butt," or even worse: "This particular task will kill me," or "I am always messing up." All these thoughts are typical examples of thoughts that go through most people's heads during a normal day, and I'll tell you - these thoughts are very powerful - especially if they become a pattern in people, which is very often the case. I had a coworker once who always used the expression, "It's a pain in the neck" because she thought it was better and more polite than to use the word "butt," I guess.
More polite, perhaps, but certainly not better because what do you know - she developed neck problems and had no idea where they came from. I told her how this all works, but who knows if she believed me - she left for another job eventually. Anyway, it's important that we are aware of what we think because we may end up getting what we're thinking and saying, and it's not always what we want. The body has a tendency to take you literally. Whatever you do, never think or say that something is going to kill you - you understand why now!
Negative thoughts like these can make our days a living hell, and we don't understand why. I do now, and it's interesting because I hear people saying these phrases all day long to each other, and no one is reacting because they have no idea about the consequences of using such repetitive phrases. We need to change these patterns, and now when you are becoming aware of it, I can't stress enough how helpful it is to tell others who use these automated phrases how this all works.
Be prepared that most of the time you will be met by skepticism and even laughter because they won't believe you, but do your best not to be effected by that. Even if people seem to laugh it off, they may very well think about it afterward without telling you about it because they don't want to admit that they were doing something destructive to themselves. Remember that anything you're saying, if there is truth in it, will at least remain in the thoughts of the other person, and one day, he or she may actually start taking your advice.
Instead, if you want to have a good day, I can suggest a formula for you. When you wake up in the morning, whether you feel good or not, tell yourself, "This is going to be a fantastic day! Everything is going to go my way, and my day will be better than fine!" If you're in a bad mood already when you wake up, repeat it a few times to make sure you are putting some energy behind it. If you notice that junk thoughts, such as "I don't believe that" or "Yea, we'll see about that" when you're saying your formula, add a "Cancel that!" after you've thought it, not to put any power to the negative.
Then repeat the formula. Right there, you're setting the guidelines for your day. By doing this every morning when you get up, it will change your days dramatically. Don't linger on the phrase, though - just give it a light thought, and let it go. Even better would be if you also can say it with a smile - that puts some extra positive energies to the intention. Then just forget about it and go on with your day. Repeat this every morning and you will notice a difference.
Step 2 will be to become aware of your negative thoughts and your automatic thought patterns. For many people who read this book, it is the first time they have even heard about junk thoughts, but there is no doubt that being aware of our patterns and changing them will make a huge difference. If this were the only thing I wrote about in this book, it would still be well worth reading.
Don't be surprised if you find yourself having many thoughts such as this. If you do, so much more powerful the change will be. Every time you come upon a thought, such as "I'm like a magnet to negative people," "I always have bad luck," "I always choose the wrong partner," "I never get what I want," "I look awful," "I'm not good enough," and so on, immediately think, "Cancel that!" afterward.
This is all you need to do, but the important thing is to continue finding these thoughts within yourself. Of course, you need to be aware of when you're saying things like this as well, not just thinking them, but anything you say is preceded by a thought anyway. Eventually, you will get better and better in spotting these patterns, but you need to be persistent and never stop or give up. If you're lucky, you don't have too many of these thoughts (although I think we all have them to a certain degree), and this will not be too much of a process, but most people are quite loaded with them.
In the beginning, you will probably find yourself forgetting to do this, so a good idea is to put sticky notes in good places, reminding you to be aware of your thoughts. The notes don't need to say exactly what you need to do if you don't want others to know what you're doing, but just write something down that will remind you. In addition, it's a very good idea to actually let others know what you're up to because it may inspire them to do the same thing - especially if they see results in you.
At first, you may have to say, "Cancel that!" to the same pattern over and over again, but eventually you will notice that the thought is not coming up anymore! Then, after having done this process x amount of days/weeks/months, you will be very conscious about what you're thinking, and your thought process will be much more positive and to the point. You will notice that negative things that may have happened to you earlier stop happening because you are no longer creating that reality with your thoughts.
Why are we creating all these negative thoughts in the first place? Even otherwise positive individuals have them, so why are we doing this to ourselves? Well, it's usually due to failures and disappointments in the past, which, in turn, happened because we created them by making bad decisions, either from lack of knowledge or earlier junk thoughts. It's often repetitive failures that create the automated patterns, so this is something to be aware of. If something unpredicted happens that we think is not in our favor, be conscious of your thoughts after the incident, and if something similar to what I gave an example of above happens, such as a voice in your head telling you something negative about yourself, be sure to cancel it. It is okay to make mistakes - that's how we learn, but we save ourselves a lot of hardship and unnecessary suffering by just changing our thinking patterns.
Moreover, this is absolutely necessary in order to become multidimensional - therefore, let's start practicing! I am suggesting that this is the first step to take toward multidimensionality if you've come to the point in your spiritual development that it's time to read a book like this. Being multidimensional means, as one of its basic tenets, that we are steadfast, have clear thoughts, and know what we want and where we're heading. It's a difficult task, but a whole lot of fun. However, failure is not an option! We all need to practice what I am suggesting in this book, or we will be stuck where we are for a much longer time than we need to. Even if some of these practices will take some time, it's still a very effective shortcut to become multidimensional.